They have been together for 19 years, but he never noticed anything!
In a relationship, trust is definitely the foundation of having a strong bond with each other. Though love and faith comes after, trust is something that keeps many couples together. Without trust, a relationship ultimately crumbles, as mistrust leads to misunderstandings and fights that never end.
A man from Belgium, only named as Jan, married his Indonesian wife Monica back in 1993, despite legal difficulties raised by the Belgian immigration authorities. It was only after 19 years that Jan realized Monica was actually born a man!
“I feel I’ve been assaulted,” Jan said.
“I brought her to Belgium. That was not easy. The Belgian courts had serious doubts about the authenticity of her birth and her identity papers, but eventually they accepted it anyway. I thought she was an attractive woman, all woman. She had no male traits,” he added.
64-year-old Jan said that he and his 48-year-old wife decided not to have children anymore since he had two children from his previous marriage. Jan also added that Monica has ‘fooled’ him by using sanitary towels for menstruation to ‘conceal the truth’.
Even during sex, I never noticed anything,” he said.
But when their marriage started to fall apart after Monica acquired a full-time job, a lot of things slowly came into light. Monica was like a big sister to Jan’s children, and they were close enough to notice something odd about her.
“Monica began to change very much,” Jan said.
“My oldest son saw her sometimes at a nightclub. She began to wear very flashy clothes, those ultra-short skirts or tiny tops, so her abdomen was completely exposed,” he added.
Finally rumours began to surface and after Jan found “amorous messages” from other men on her computer, he confronted her in a violent row that led to the police being called.
“A friend told me that he had heard that Monica was actually a sex-changed man. I could not believe it. My son heard similar rumours,” he said.
“I pushed her against the wall and said: Now I know the truth. Are you a man? She then announced that she was born as a boy and that she had been operated on. She was now a woman, and so she did not need to tell me about her past as a man. My world collapsed. That evening came to blows. The police came.”
“That person has deliberately deceived him for years, even scammed. Presumably she has also forged documents used here to get a residence permit. The children, who for years have lived with her, are devastated,” said his Liliane Verjauw, his lawyer.
Jan is now undergoing psychiatric treatment following the discovery and has now having their marriage annulled by the Belgian courts. So far, the court has refused to allow him to turn her out of their family home.